Anxiety and stress are becoming inevitable in today’s world. We are continuously confronted with obstacles that put our mental and emotional strength to the test, ranging from personal hardships to career uncertainties and academic pressures.
“What if I fail this exam?”
“Will I ever get a good job after graduation?”
“How will I manage my finances and student loans?”
“Am I making the right choices for my future?”
“What if I disappoint my family?”
Aren’t these the questions we ask ourselves very often? University life is a time of immense growth, learning, and self-discovery for an undergraduate. However, it is also filled with uncertainty, pressure, and high expectations. These common self-doubts in their life increase the stress and make them feel like a constant struggle to keep up with academic, financial, and social pressures. However, the ultimate key player to navigate stress and anxiety is by cultivating supportive inner dialogue.
Inner dialogue is like a professional commentator that lives inside your head. Our inner dialogue consists of the thoughts and self-talk that shape our perception of ourselves and the world. Our inner dialogues are responsible for identity formation, self-organization, social dialogues, and general self-reflection. Depending on how effectively we master them, they may either operate in our favor or against us.
Strategies to manage Internal dialogue
1. Be aware of your internal dialogue.
For some of us, our internal dialogue is a continuous conversation or a persistent presence in our brains. Those who are considerably less so could have a tougher time paying attention. Doing some meditation can help you focus on your thoughts, which is one approach to become aware of it. Some people also suggest the deliberate thinking, “I wonder what my next thought will be.” Regardless of whether this interferes with your inner monologue or merely diverts your attention, it appears to allow the brain to become aware of what is being placed.
2. Reframe your thoughts
Develop a new dialogue or mantra. For those repeating thoughts that are not supportive of your wellbeing, find a way to reframe them to develop a new mindset and more positive inner dialogue. For example, if your repeating thought is, “Nothing I do is good enough,” you can shift that to, “Today I did the best I could, I know I did the best I could.” I do is good enough,” you can shift that to, “Today I did the best I could, I know I did the best I could.”
3. Keep track.
We cannot effect change until we are aware of it. Now that you’ve taken the effort to develop a new inner conversation and are conscious of it, monitor your progress. Slipping is OK! Since our brains are quite strong and we are all human, employ mindfulness and awareness techniques to help you reconnect with your reframed ideas and mantras. The important thing here is to recognize when you are slipping
into a negative self-talk pattern so that you can stop and intentionally reset. It’s acceptable if you need to repeat this many times in a single day or even within an hour. Remind yourself to be patient and kind. This requires dedication.
4. Develop a Practice
Treating oneself with kindness is crucial to stress and anxiety management. Talk to yourself in a supportive and understanding manner, just as you would with a good friend. Compose fresh mantras for yourself every day, every week, or every month that promote your general well-being and get you through difficult times. Every day, engage with them by placing them in a visible location. Continue to monitor your ideas and yourself. Engage in the aforementioned reframing exercise on a regular basis. You may also do this reframing exercise with your teams since they can achieve more as a team when they have a good, healthy mentality. Additionally, it makes room for vulnerability and cooperation.
5. Cultivate mindfulness and gratitude
You may divert your attention from tension and worry by being in the present and focusing on what is going well. You may become more grounded in the here and now by engaging in mindfulness practices like deep breathing, meditation, or basic awareness exercises. Maintaining a gratitude diary can also help you stay positive by reminding you of the good things in your life.You may divert your attention from tension and worry by being in the present and focusing on what is going well. You may become more grounded in the here and now by engaging in mindfulness practices like deep breathing, meditation, or basic awareness exercises. Maintaining a gratitude diary can also help you stay positive by reminding you of the good things in your life.
By strengthening neural pathways linked to resilience and confidence, positive self-talk has been shown to rewire the brain. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) research suggests that substituting constructive affirmations for negative self-talk can lower the stress hormone and enhance emotional well-being. Supportive inner dialogue is a lifelong practice that can significantly impact how we manage
stress and anxiety. By replacing negative self-talk with kindness, encouragement, and self-compassion, we can build emotional resilience and enhance our overall well-being.
Remember, the way you speak to yourself matters to make it a voice of support and empowerment. Start today by choosing one supportive phrase to repeat to yourself whenever stress arises. Over time, these small changes will create a foundation of inner strength, helping you face challenges with confidence and ease.
Written By: –
Rtr. Shimra Shamil
(Blog Team Member 2024-25)
Edited By: –
Rtr. Umesh Eranda Pannilavithana
(Junior Blog Member 2024-25)